February 22, 2021

Smiling For The Camera

Would it not  be great if we wore a smile everyday instead of just for the camera! I was always told by my mother, “live your life as if your on a stage and everyone is watching”. I have always remembered this and thought of it in terms of posing for a picture. Don’t we always put on our best smile? After all no one wants to take a bad picture. This is a thoughtless process smiling for the camera. I say that we should carry this thoughtless process throughout our day-day lives. If you think about it we are almost always being observed by others whether we realize it or not. So smiling should be a thoughtless process when we encounter others. And hey, they are taking a picture of us in their minds anyway. We only have one chance to make a first impression so smiling is a guaranteed positive first impression. You say…. “I can’t walk around smiling all the time”  Yes you can! If you want positive feedback from others you will have to learn how to smile even when you don’t feel like it. Besides I bet you will feel better just putting forth the effort! Smile for the snapshots that are being taken in minds of others. You will alway take a good picture! Stephen Spurling

You Work to Avoid Confrontation With Your Heart

I write about this today as a dear friend told me this was her reality. Working two jobs to avoid confrontation with her heart. I find this to be a true way of  life for many. I think so many of us “keep busy” whether it’s working a job, or obsessing about most anything that keeps our inner most feelings preoccupied. Simply put “not dealing with what could ultimately be self fulfillment” . We are not happy in our heart of hearts.

I understand all of this… as it is a coping instinct, but it will only work for a short while.  And when it fails to satisfy, then and only then will we deal with our heart. It takes courage and strength to focus on ourselves, but who else knows our needs more!  No one can make us happy and no one knows what our inner most feelings are except ourselves. As William Shakespeare once said…”to thine own self be true, and it must follow,as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man”  This that I write, we have all heard before, but we must start living it. Life is way too short to live it, avoiding confrontation with our heart! It’s up to you… find your peace. Stephen Spurling