January 27, 2022

The True story…

As I write about my life I do it not for a reaction from others, but to inspire people to get past all the hurt and turmoil of their own lives. I grew up in what I thought was a typical home where we had many adversities to overcome. Maybe more than average. But for me and my family it was just “deal with it.” In growing up this way it taught me to deal with whatever comes my way as an adult.

        I look at it this way; “the worst part of my life is behind me.” See when you grow up in  a tumultuous home full of inconsistencies and you survive it… to adulthood. Ahhh….. adulthood, now I am in the driver’s seat! This means if there is pain in my life now,  I have allowed it!  We will always throughout our entire lives have to make decisions, what I call being at a “crossroad”. We have choices and not to sound glib, we can take the high road. Most of us know the difference between right and wrong. Although I must admit that sometimes when we are living in that moment, we don’t always make the right decisions.  We are just trying to survive! I always knew that I would survive my childhood no matter how often things seemed completely hopeless. For me surviving was an enate ability to go into myself and live a different scenario and most importantly… WAIT. Wait til I had control of the situation… AKA adulthood! I do believe that our childhood memories mold us into the adults we become. The only thing is… we must let go of the bad memories as they will only carry over into our adult lives and usually not in a good way. Remember you are now in control of your destiny, you’re in the driver’s seat! 

        I will write stories of my life as I lived it raised in a southern home. It will be a true story of  love, hatred, chaos and a sense of dealing with what was termed as the “unspeakable acts” of a family that had run amuck! But the southern charm of my family would make you want to pull up a chair and stay for dinner. In other words the acting abilities of my family could win us an Ocar! So sit tight as I compose the details of a story that not even Hollywood could conjure up! Stephen


  1. I really liked your blog! It helped me alot… Awesome. Exactly what I was looking for. Thanks!

  2. Tami Monroe Lower says:

    Well said, my friend. I spend years being angry about something my parents did (or actually DIDN’T do to protect me) and I acted out with very self-destructive behavior. I finally forgave my parents (my dad in particular) but it took 35 years for my dad to ACTUALLY admit he was wrong. My mom is still in denial. I have to say that my dad’s admission and asking for forgiveness was a huge weight off my shoulders. All the pain made me a stronger person in the end, and I hope a better parent to my own daughter. The lines of communication are always open. Anyway, you are much better at taking the high road than I am, but I am getting better!!!!

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