December 16, 2025

Waiting…”The rain will come in its own time. The “I” Ching…

How difficult it is sometimes to wait for life to unfold, to restrain ourselves from trying to hurry it along or make things happen before their time. In our eagerness for results, we forget, waiting is as important a part of life as doing. There is a purpose to waiting; as Richard Wilhelm observes in his translation of the “I Ching”, the” Chinese Book of Changes”.”Waiting is not mere empty hoping. It has the inner certainty of reaching the goal.” It is interesting to note that the hexagram entitled “Waiting” in the “I Ching” is referred to as “Nourishment”.

The period of waiting is a valuable time, during which we can strengthen our inner resources. If there is nothing we can do about a situation except wait, we can use that opportunity to plan, relax, research, and reflect; all highly useful activities that invariably lead in the direction of Illumination. As the Norse equivalent of the “I Ching”, the Rune suggests, “When fishermen cannot go to sea, they repair nets.”

If you are currently in a position of waiting, how can you use the time productively? What do you think the purpose of waiting is in your life? Instead of becoming frustrated or despairing, try thanking the waiting for providing a breather in your life, a chance to nourish yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually as you gain a new perspective on the situation.

I know this may sound hard to grasp at times. But maybe if we each take “baby steps” towards it…Who knows…We may realize something. Namaste….”Chabby”

Angel Wisdom…T.L.Taylor and M.B. Crain

The Coconut Miracle Pie!

Here’s another great easy dessert recipe. The prep is no time and no mess, but the result is a “big ole pie” that everyone will love!

First, get out your blender and dump in 1 cup of sugar, 4 eggs, 2 cups of milk, 1/2 cup of melted butter, 1/2 cup of plain all purpose flour, 1 running over teaspoon of vanilla, 1 cup flaked coconut, and a dash of salt. Blend well, then pour into 10 inch pie pan. Bake it a 300′ for 1 hour. The miracle of the pie is that it makes its own crust. The video below will walk you through all the steps and show you the wonderful results. You are sure to impress your friends, family, and even yourself with its taste and ease!   Stephen

You Work to Avoid Confrontation With Your Heart

I write about this today as a dear friend told me this was her reality. Working two jobs to avoid confrontation with her heart. I find this to be a true way of  life for many. I think so many of us “keep busy” whether it’s working a job, or obsessing about most anything that keeps our inner most feelings preoccupied. Simply put “not dealing with what could ultimately be self fulfillment” . We are not happy in our heart of hearts.

I understand all of this… as it is a coping instinct, but it will only work for a short while.  And when it fails to satisfy, then and only then will we deal with our heart. It takes courage and strength to focus on ourselves, but who else knows our needs more!  No one can make us happy and no one knows what our inner most feelings are except ourselves. As William Shakespeare once said…”to thine own self be true, and it must follow,as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man”  This that I write, we have all heard before, but we must start living it. Life is way too short to live it, avoiding confrontation with our heart! It’s up to you… find your peace. Stephen Spurling

Twelve Steps That Can Make Your Space look Larger.

    In checking out my library, I came across book put out by House Beautiful a few years back and thought this is some great information to

share with you all!

1) Decorate with intention….Haphazard decorating just accentuates the “BOX’ effect of a small space.

2)Use round tables. They are easy to work around and you can always squeeze in an extra chair. Plus, they look

fine if they’re off-center on a wall or in front of a sofa.

3) Lateral accents expand the space. Paint your walls with horizontal bands in three related colors or several sheens of the same hue.

4) MIRRORS open up small spaces. Many mirrors set a different angles open up a room even more and reflect bits of and pieces

of things you might not otherwise notice.

5) Use many sources of light. Lampshades that concentrate the light give the impression that a space is larger.

6) Leave the ceiling unlit or you will feel it’s on your head. Several small lamps will add character and depth to a room. One exception, small recessed lighting located closer to the corners of your room. It sheds nice soft lighting when dimmed and defines the space.

7) Use light furniture with legs. Skirted furniture tends to close up a space.

8) Create perspectives so you don’t feel closed in. The view from one room to another should be intentionally composed with a smooth transition from one ambiance to the next. Color, Accessories and Art.

9) If possible, Add INTERIOR windows. (open spaces in a wall to allow light, air and conversation to flow from room to room.

10) Keep keep the eye moving. Make window treatments and wall colors the same or closely similar.

11)Get rid of doors where you can. replace if you like with light curtains….Have fun and use your imagination where your fabrics are concerned.

12) Go for things of Good Quality. In a small space, Everything receives attention.

“Chabby Chaberek”

 

 

 

Are You Living A Happy Life?

                  I am a firm believer that we all possess the ability to get what we want in life. Why it is harder for some than others, I can’t answer that.  One of the biggest obstacles for many is not  knowing the difference between contentment and happiness! I realize that it is so much easier to live being content, but at the end of the day, have you lived your life to the fullest? Don’t just live with contentment. We all are deserving of more.  This is what life’s journey is all about… living the best life we can!  We are special and unique in our on right, so take the leap of faith today to get… one , two , maybe even three steps closer to your wants and desires. Remember…. “The fruit is always at the end of the limb!” Meaning… we have to go out of our comfort zone sometimes just to get what we really deserve!  And we all deserve a bite of that sweet fruit! So start climbing toward your goal of  happiness, and enjoy the view along the way! Stephen

Painting An Exterior Brick House

I have painted many brick homes. I usually find a reason to do this as there are very few brick homes that look good with natural brick. Let me explain myself. I usually renovate older homes and the brick that was used back then wasn’t as pretty as the brick used today. I also like the fresh clean look of painted brick. The home I am featuring in this blog was in terrible shape, the brick had many mortar cracks, and we all know that when you do a mortar patch it never matches the existing mortar, and stands out like a sore thumb! Well to be honest, I would have painted this home whether it need mortar repairs or not, the natural brick just wasn’t attractive.

A quick FYI about mortar cracks, they are ok if they run in a”stair step” fashion, of course they need to be filled (re-pointed) to keep moisture out. If the mortar cracks run horizontally then it is can be an indication of a shift in the foundation, a more serious fix, and a whole other conversation.

I will let you decide which is better, painted brick or not. I realize the “before” picture is not a fair comparison as it was taken before it was renovated. However ,you must admit the painted brick “after” picture really brings the home back to life! It is an updated 50’s ranch! Stephen   

Get those tomatoes out of the window sill!!!

Wow! How many of us growing up and even for me, until today, thought sitting a tomato in the kitchen windowsill helped it to finish ripening? wrong!!! Tomatoes don’t need sun to finish ripening, they actually need the total opposite. Instead keep them in a dark pantry closet, or on the counter top or shelf, but cover them with several sheets of newspaper or a paper bag. Check them regularly as they will ripen fast, and by no means put them in the refrigerator even after they are ripe. Who wants a cold tomato, anyway? I learned this today and I would almost bet, the generation before me , aka,  my mother would have argued differently. Thought I should pass this on … so get those tomatoes out of the window sills!